Possibly the most confronting event of the year, worldwide candle-lighting day brings those who have experienced bereavement after the death of a young person together for a moment of reflection. 

The event has been held in Leiden for ten years now. Candles are lit, names are read out, and photos are shown. 

Perhaps most magical is the reception afterwards, where the sorrow transforms into warmth and laughter. I cannot begin to imagine the depths of sorrow people feel at the loss of a young person, a child, toddler, baby, stillborn, or miscarriage. But I can imagine that coming together and knowing one is not alone may help in this process. 

With thanks to Xenia Hospice and the Leiden City Council for organising and hosting this event for a decade.